Husband Rants: How To Be A Dad to 3 Boys
It is not uncommon to read posts about how mom feels about parenting. But we sometimes know little about how dad survives fatherhood. This is about how parenting consumes my husband and how is he as dad to 3 boys.
Usually, moms have a lot to say about running the house and taking care of the family while dads speak less. So when they do open their mouth, everybody should listen. Modern fatherhood has changed the perception of dads as financial providers and pillars of the household. Moms and dads co-share responsibilities in and out of the house.
As a guest blog post, my husband shares his thoughts about parenting 3 boys. This is how to be a dad who juggles work, parenting, side hustles and personal ideas.
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Adulting on Steroids (or “How I’m Surviving Life in my 30s with 3 Young Boys”)
by: Mighty Rasing
A pastor once asked, “what do men who turn 40 do?” I asked back: “go through mid-life crisis?” He laughed and said that that could also be true. But his answer was “go to the gym.”
I’m almost 40. The operative word here is “almost.” I have made plans to go back to the gym several times! You see, the past 3 years have been really busy. Our second son, Caspian, was born in late 2018. A year later, we learned that we were pregnant with our third child, who turned out to be another son!
The World Went Crazy!
In 2020, the world plunged into a global pandemic. Everything turned upside down! The only upside for our family is that I got to avoid travel and work from home. It was really helpful since our third son arrived in July of that year.
I knew I was busy before having 3 kids. But boy, things got crazy! One time my wife and I were watching a TV show on HGTV, about a couple with three kids who were about to buy a home. The guy wanted an extra room that he can turn into a man cave so he can play video games on his spare time. To that, his wife replied: “we got three kids, we don’t have spare time!” I laughed out loud. So true!
One time, I was on a call with my best friends and I half-jokingly complained about how busy life is with three kids and that my hair’s turning gray. They said “Ginusto mo yan!” (You wanted that!”) and we just laughed.
Adulting is one of those hashtags on social media millennials have been using for maybe a decade now. I’m a millennial so I’m owning that word. But even after almost two decades of being an adult, I don’t think I’m an expert at this yet. I mean, is there ever an expert at this? There’s a lot of responsibilities in growing up:
- showing up for your job and doing good work;
- keeping relationships alive and vibrant—especially with the people who matter the most in your life;
- keeping track of all the bills and payables;
- saving, investing, and trying to make sure money won’t be a problem in the future;
- staying fit (if you can, that is);
- continue learning and improving skills;
- and the list goes on!
On top all these, you are supposed to pursue your passion, be fulfilled, and have fun!
Yes, I’m complaining just a bit. Part of the reality of being a father, or at least an adult, is you have to prioritize so many things over personal projects, hobbies, and interests. Right now, my guitars are sitting in a corner. I haven’t played them significantly since 2019, nor have I written poetry or short story since… I don’t even remember when!
Thankful for my beloved wife!
I am super thankful for my wife! She moved halfway across the world with me and we’ve built our family in a foreign land, far from everything that’s familiar! She gave up a thriving career in the Philippines, she also chose not to work here in Nashville so she can focus on our sons. Sometimes, she even sacrifices her personal time for me and our boys!
It can be overwhelming, especially on those days that I am tired and there’s a mountain of dishes on the sink that needs to be cleaned. Or when the boys are hungry or tired and crying! That’s another thing you give up when you’re a parent. Quiet!
Thankfully, this lasts only for a season! Our eldest is in now in third grade. We see his growth and development, and he doesn’t need as much care as our two younger boys. Our two toddlers will get there, too. In the meantime, we need to be patient and take one thing at a time.
This lasts for a season. People keep telling us that this season will also be over before we knew it. And that kids grow up so quickly!
Sorry if you came here expecting practical tips on how to survive having three kids. I will probably write that in the future. But it’s not just all complaints and struggles. I’ve had lots of hugs and kisses from our babies. Lots of reminders of love and grace. Plus, I get to play with Hot Wheels cars all over again!
15 thoughts on “Husband Rants: How To Be A Dad to 3 Boys”
I love this! Especially the last line.
Parenting is tough work no matter how many kids you have!
Life changes when you have children. I can imagine how busy it must be with three kids; I only have one – a toddler – and life is busy and our lives are very different from the way they used to be! I agree with you that they grow up so quickly and this toddler season will end before we know it!
Being a parent is one of the hardest things I’ve ever done. But I wouldn’t trade it for anything in the world.
I think we all feel like this as adults one way or the other. Sharing how we feel about it ( the good and the bad) always makes things better. Good for you for recognizing how much your wife does around the house. Not many spouses see those things these days.
What a really great read! It sounds like both of you are doing an amazing job.
Being a parent is hard, but everything is worth it, most especially when your kids giving you hugs and kisses.
Having 3 boys is not easy to handle, but sooner it will become easy. I am glad your wife is always there for your to help you.
With three all of a sudden the parents are outnumbered! It does get easier as they get older in many ways, but also harder in others. But it is all so worth it! Sounds like your family is very lucky to have you!
I would love for my husband to sit down and write on his perspective of being a parent. Thanks for sharing!
I appreciate your transparency. I enjoy reading realistic experiences we as parents go through.
This is great. You are right, we don’t ask for the dad/husband’s opinion very often. Makes me want to ask my own husband to write a post! Thanks!
Thanks for sharing this perspective!
I think this was a great read! Becoming a parent is a huge responsibility, but it sounds like you’re killin it!
Parenting definitely has its share of responsibilities as well as adventures. I’m sure things can be crazy with three boys!
so very heartwarming to read this post.. and thank you for this